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05 December, 2024

Sexual Attraction and Partner Dependence

Attraction or addiction?

Imagine a couple: she can't wait to meet him, every message causes her a storm of emotions, and every minute without him seems like an eternity. He, in turn, can't imagine his life without her, but frequent quarrels and jealousy spoil their relationship. They call it “love,” but what if it's more like an addiction?

Attraction is a natural process that brings people together. It is linked to our biology, our emotions and our need for intimacy. However, when feelings become compulsive and the presence of a partner becomes a necessity of life, a different story emerges. It is no longer about passion, but about addiction, which destroys the personality.

Why is this important? Because confusing passion and addiction can lead to toxic relationships where both partners lose their identity and emotional stability.

What is sexual attraction?

Sexual attraction is a natural, biologically determined feeling that drives us to seek intimacy with a partner. At the heart of attraction are powerful hormonal processes that control our behavior like conductors. Dopamine creates feelings of pleasure, oxytocin creates feelings of attachment, and testosterone and estrogen ignite passion.

However, attraction is not just about chemistry. It is linked to our emotions, desires and lifestyle. For example, passion is often enhanced by novelty, spontaneity and mutual interest. It is important to realize that sexual attraction naturally changes over time: a deeper connection based on respect and love can take the place of a passionate outburst.

But what happens when a desire turns into a compulsive need? Here it is important to distinguish between attraction and addiction.

How to recognize addiction to a partner:

When a relationship becomes a major source of happiness and the absence of a partner causes anxiety, it can be a red flag. Here are a few signs of addiction:

  1. A compulsive need to be close. You can't concentrate on your work or hobbies if your partner isn't around. Every minute feels empty without him or her.
  2. Jealousy and control. You are constantly suspicious of your partner, afraid of losing him or her, and trying to control every little thing.
  3. Loss of self. Your interests, goals and dreams take a back seat to your partner.
  4. Emotional swings. Relationships bring euphoria or deep pain. You feel dependent on your partner's moods.

If at least a few points are close to you, it's a reason to think: is the relationship strengthening you or destroying you?

Why do we become “addicted”?

Dependence on a partner rarely comes out of nowhere. Most often, it is rooted in our past:

  • Childhood trauma. If you lacked love and support as a child, you may look for it in a partner. The desire to “fill the void” becomes stronger than reason.
  • Fear of loneliness. Society often instills in us that to be alone is to lose. This fear pushes us to maintain even destructive relationships.
  • Low self-esteem. People who are insecure tend to put their partner on a pedestal, forgetting their own needs.

Sexual harmony or addiction

In a healthy relationship, sexual attraction is like a dance between two people, where each respects the rhythm of the other. However, in addiction, the dance turns into a struggle: one “leader” submits and the other is forced to follow.

To understand where the line between attraction and addiction is, ask yourself questions:

  • Do I want to be with my partner or can't be without him/her?
  • Does this relationship make me a better person or destroy my personality?
  • Do I feel happy alone, or is my partner my only source of joy?

How do you get rid of addiction and regain balance?

Recognizing addiction is the first step toward freedom. Here are some practical tips:

  1. Work on your self-esteem. Find activities that bring you joy and build your confidence.
  2. Set boundaries. Learn to say “no” and protect your personal space.
  3. Seek support. Psychotherapy is not a weakness, but a powerful tool for rebuilding yourself.
  4. Practice mindfulness. Meditation, journaling, and working with your emotions can help you be in tune with yourself.
  5. Revisit the relationship. If your partner is not supporting you in your quest to become stronger, it may be worth rethinking the relationship.

Sexual attraction is a powerful force that brings us together. But true love does not know dependence. It is based on trust, respect and freedom. A healthy relationship is when two people are happy and fulfilled separately, but choose to be together.

Remember: you don't have to dissolve into another person to earn love. True intimacy begins with loving yourself.

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